A Man’s ‘GIFT’ is not actually or necessarily given for NOTHING!; this I have learnt in a bitter way!
Every form of SPENDING that a MAN makes on a woman that is neither his wife nor related to him (in any way) is actually an INVESTMENT of sorts and he expects to be rewarded accordingly (deep down).
A man caused a scene at a BAR in Lagos one weekend. Just a few minutes before mid-night…a man that every member of the live band (that was playing on that day) suddenly faced because he was SPRAYING THEM (with money) heavily.
He just removes the rubber on a bundle and scatters the cash on a particular female singer. When that one could not get enough of his ‘goodness’-she went to sit on his laps (as she was singing)…only going back to the stage with more bundles of money in her hand.
A few minutes after midnight, our man signaled to the lady (the singer) that it was time for them to retire for the night, the lady gave the usual excuses of NOT BEING ABLE TO GET AWAY, AS THE BAND STILL HAD MORE GUESTS TO ENTERTAIN.
Our man could not believe her audacity and he kept on shouting DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH I HAVE WASTED ON YOUR USELESS BAND BECAUSE OF YOU? YOU CAN’T GIVE ME THIS CRAP NOW-NO! NO! I WON’T TAKE THAT FROM YOU.THIS IS NOT THE FIRST TIME YOU ARE GIVING ME SUCH EXCUSES.
All the CHAIRMAN PLEASE CALM DOWN from the bouncers at the bar could not make him lower his voice-until he was whisked away…to the relief of the lady, who was embarrassed-to say the least or so-she appeared.
This actually reminds me of a man I met some years back, who despite being told that I was not ready for any form of relationship at that time, still insisted he just wanted to be a friend. He started by throwing money my way, whatever I looked at twice – got delivered at my door step the next day.
But the ONLY request I made of him (which was to assist me settle the cost of an international certification examination that I wanted so much to write at that time) was greeted with WHEN ARE YOU COMING TO SEE ME IN ABUJA?
Nobody told me that time don reach make I go declare the dividends of the entire AWOOOF wey don dey threaten to run my belle. Na so, I take pack my LONG THROAT for one side o….Abuja, I nor go, neither did he mention nor pay for the ‘certification exam’ again. In fact, he did not contact me (again) after I failed to show up in Abuja.
As much as the MEN can, please learn to define the RULES OF ENGAGEMENT under which you are dispensing whatever favour to a lady…it is not every lady that is actually taken in by ‘all that cash display’, so it becomes INSULTING for a lady that did not ask you for the cash (you are spending left, right and center)- to get a WHEN ARE YOU COMING TO SEE ME attitude from you. Did she beg you? Nor be you want play BIGGER BOY?
And to the ladies, please ensure that, you understand the implied MOU (memorandum of understanding) before you take a penny from him. If you can’t play ball…please do not lead him on.
Making a man feel like a MUGU is enough to make some of them feel murderous. It actually pays to rein in your LONG THROAT. If you are not ready to deliver the ‘dividends’ of his (strings attached) generosity to him!
Post by Chukwuneta Oby