When is it enough? When is it I can’t go on? When is it time to Divorce?
The Christian Bible makes divorce an anathema. Has only one condition. Adultery! Islam is a little less restrictive and to some extent when interpreted properly more permissive on the matter.
The West and Divorce
Once when I was in East Kilbride, I took a taxi to Glasgow. I had a very chatty Scot driver. We talked about all things and everything. He told me he was divorced. He said to me that when he was in primary school, being a product of a divorce home was a rarity. About 7 of 25 of his classmates then. He said now that the statistics was reversed in his kids class. Children from married homes were the minority. That is the West now.
In Nigeria particularly in the South, couples will endure long moments of unhappiness together. They will bring misery to each other. Both have multiple affairs. Pretend and live as co-tenants in the same house. Or the man becomes a polygamist while the wife or wives seek happiness outside.
I support resolution of issues, as it is only on Facebook and Instagram that wives and husbands are perfect. We all deal with our own challenges on day by day basis. But when domestic violence occurs, my support ends. Divorce, Run for your life and move on.
But what about non physical cruelty? Should that be endured? Men or women that through their indiscretion bring diseases home to one another or have ceased to be in a loving relationship? Why do they stick it? Stigma, shame, culture or kids?
Everyone deserves happiness. Everyone deserves joy. Our views and advice to irreconcilable differences should change.
But will it? In a society that half of us are religious fruitcakes without being aware of it! And pretenders to the boot!!